Get Over Your Grudge with the New Year
Holding a grudge is literally holding onto anger, hurt and resentment, and the longer you hold onto these emotions the more they change you. These emotions continue to grow like a cancer and can inherently change who you are as a person. The longer you hold on to the negativity, the harder it becomes to experience joy.
Realize that letting go of a grudge is more than forgiving others. It is also understanding that you cannot forgive yourself unless you nurture the ability to forgive others. Mentally speaking, shame and guilt are best placed where they belong, and that is outside of your personal sphere. Once you are able to externalize the conflict you are better equipped to let go.
Remember that those who have wronged you, really have no power over you. Wrongs will only affect you for as long as you allow them to. Make it a point to acknowledge and address how you feel. Vent to friends, journal, scream, beat your pillow if you have to. But once you’ve let it out, forgive, apologize when you should and then let it go.
We’ve all heard the saying “out with the old and in with the new.” This year, take that quote to heart. Make it a point to let go of the old hurts and negative feelings. Acknowledge what you can not change, and accept it. This year, don’t allow negativity to dull your shine. You deserve nothing less than happiness.
Co-Authored with Brittany Delevergne